Dear Matt,
I am embarrassed to talk about my current situation, but I need help. I caught my boyfriend and my best friend in bed together. I was shocked and so upset. Now, they are both asking for forgiveness. I just can’t do it. Am I wrong?
Run Forest… Run! Remember that movie? Well, get moving, and don’t look back! And don’t you dare blame yourself or feel sad. It is sooo their loss. Just be happy that you saw their true colors before you wasted anymore of your wonderful self on them. People like your ex-boyfriend and your ex-best friend deserve each other. They are driven by their impulses and will continue to make bad decisions all through life.
You can’t and shouldn’t forgive either of them; so focus immediately on yourself and all of the other wonderful things in your life, like genuine friends, family and career. While your heart is healing, we would like to recommend some remedies:
Do not be bitter towards anyone involved in the situation (other friends, your cheating ex or your former best friend). Indifference is always a sign of strength.
Completely ignore any attempts either party might have in trying to contact you. It won’t be easy, but it will be best long term.
Workout, make new friends and leave the dark past in the past. Focus on your bright future, and you will soon have new people in your life to replace those who do not deserve you.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
