Dear Matt,
I recently ended a relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. I don’t regret that decision, but every time I meet someone new, I can’t help comparing him to the guy I just broke up with. What should I do?
Congratulations on your decision to move on-- you should never settle or compromise when it comes to finding a life partner. But every time you compare a potential Mr. Right to Mr. Ex, you are subconsciously putting up a barrier that will keep you alone and in the past. Time will heal these wounds, but in the meantime, try to accept everyone you meet as an individual in their own right and not some version of the guy you just broke up with. If you still find yourself playing the comparing game several months down the line, it may be a sign that you’re not ready to put yourself back in the game just yet.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
