Dear Matt,
I am meeting my boyfriend’s friends for the first time, and I want them to approve of me. Any suggestions on making sure I become just one of the guys…
First, you got the key, then the drawer, but how do you make sure you get the guy? He may worship the ground your Jimmy Choos walk on, but don’t start naming children yet! As you flit into Fall, you still have one hurdle lying in the middle of “The Aisle”: the friends.
• Initially, you may be perceived as a threat to his “brain trust.”
Don’t go crazy with the pronouns like WE and US. Couple talk segregates the two of you.
• Guys are cruel.
They love to tease and taunt each other. When one of them brings his girl into the group, he becomes a marked man. Don’t defend your guy against his friends’ silly slights.
• Leave the “glue stick girlfriend” at home.
Limited PDA. Men associate touch with possession. Wait until later and possess him all you want, in the bedroom.
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? This book will be out January 13, 2008. It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
