Dear Matt,
Things are going along well in my current relationship, but I am worried about making a wrong move and losing the guy I am with. I am still not sure why my last boyfriend bolted and never gave me a good reason for our breakup. I am looking for the things that turn men off the fastest, so that I can avoid doing them!
This is not difficult, in fact, once you understand men, you won’t be able to get them away from you! Men think in terms of “snap shots.”
We function in the present, not the past and definitely not the future. In our romantic lives, we are generally not planners. We are driven by our desires without much thought to the repercussions of our actions. Here is the key, if women take control and do not let men have their immediate way (physical gratification = sleeping with us) it slows down our actions and forces us to think with our minds instead of anything else! Additionally, most men are hunters and an easy kill is of no interest to them, as they will soon move onto the next prey.
1. Be constantly available.
2. Consult or consider him before any decision.
3. Always talk about the future
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? This book will be out January 13, 2008. It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
