Dear Matt,
I know you are supposed to wait to sleep with a guy, but I already made a mistake on our first date. We both got very drunk and wound up sleeping together. Is it over before it started or do you think he will still call?
Despite the fact that he probably ordered, poured and encouraged you to drink all night long; the last thing he really wanted was another tipsy girl in his bed. Men have no timetable in their grand plan of intimacy, and most guys are "ready" upon learning your name. If you truly want a chance at a great relationship, in most cases, you have to be on your "A" game to manage the "man-child’s" physical advances. In this case, I would wait to see if he calls. If he does, make sure the next day ends at the door and make sure you self-impose a two drink maximum. Skip the third round, it doesn’t always mix well with that delicate balance of being physical without being intimate.
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