Dear Matt,
I am seeing a guy that I want to sleep with. We have been dating for three weeks! Is that too soon? He is practically begging me.
Be careful, he might pull that horrible guy trick on you called the bait and switch. This is when men chase women feverishly until they finally get them in the bedroom and fulfill their needs and then all of a sudden go cold. When it comes to pursuing a women, men’s actions are based on sexual instinct. Everything he does in the beginning of a relationship is ultimately to achieve his goal of sleeping with you. Don’t hate him for this, it’s in his genes, he can’t help it. It is up to you to manage his sexually driven actions. Ration your gorgeous self. No matter how hot he is or how incredible he makes you physically feel, do not be “Janey” on the spot when it comes to fulfilling his sexual needs. Make him chase it, work for it and most of all deserve it!
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? This book will be out January 13, 2008. It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
