Find ‘The One’ In 2008!

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By Erica Mayyasi
January 09, 2008 @ 11:54 am

Let this be the year that you finally land your life partner. Here's how to do it.

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New Year’s resolutions are a dime a dozen: lose weight, change jobs, blah blah blah. But if you really want to change this year, you have to have a plan for how you’re going to do it. If 2008 is the year you want to find love, then keep these strategies in mind:
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Don’t refuse help. When a friend tells you they know someone who could be perfect for you, it’s easy to laugh it off and say that you’re a lost cause. You may feel desperate accepting help, but in the end you’re only hurting yourself by refusing it. After all, your friends know you best-- maybe even better than you know yourself.

Give people a chance. Don’t let a tiny thing turn into a full-fledged deal breaker early on. If everything about a guy is great except for his obsession with Tabasco sauce, or that his pants are slightly too short, or he watches sports a little more than you’d desire, don’t harp on it right away and get to know him more before you write him off.

Go to new places. Sticking to your familiar haunts may be convenient and comfortable, but it’s drastically limiting your chances of meeting someone new. Don’t just try new clubs and bars; try new delis, grocery stores, parks, and coffee shops, as well.

Don’t let it consume you. When you’re single and looking, every night can seem do-or-die. But don’t let whether you meet a man be the single determinant of the success of an evening. If you’re going out as a possessed girl on a mission, it will probably show . . . and not in a good way. Someone who can always have fun no matter what the circumstance? Now that’s attractive.

TAMSEN’S TAKE

{title} Tamsen Fadal, co-founder of SassyBean.com and co-star of “Matched in Manhattan,” gives her top tips to keep in mind when on the prowl in the new year:

1. Be honest about your needs.

2. Don’t be reckless, stay away from jumping in TOO FAST!

3. Remember, revealing too much too soon never works! Keeping a bit of mystery about yourself is VERY important, why give it all away on the first date?!

4. Giving up your individual identity, not continuing to being the person who attracted the other party in the first place is the quickest path to breakup city! Stay that same amazing person you were the first time you both met.

For more of Tamsen’s insight into the dating world, check out “Why Hasn’t He Called?”

3 Comments

jrphilanthropy

January 17, 2008

Are there reputable “matchmaker” services in the Midwest? How does one figure out who the good companies are? I’m a farm girl (woman) looking to get back to the ranch--any special sites for that? JR

Marie Cannizzaro

January 18, 2008

Hi JR,

Great question. Matchmaker’s will often list their services in the back of lifestyle magazines, but make sure you check out their reputation just as you would for a doctor. Check with the Better Business Bureau, and ask the matchmaker for references so you can ask former clients about their experience. Good luck, and in the mean time check out the dating advice from Sassy Bean, “Matched in Manhattan,” and Matt and Tamsen’s new book, “Why Hasn’t He Called?”

Best,
MC

Tracey Campbell

February 14, 2008

Ok, how can you help me find the one from Los Angeles