As a full-fledged member of the geek nation, I feel it my duty to share with you why a geek partner can be a great way to go. The continuing success of geek chic fashion tells me you already find smart sexy, even if it’s subconscious. But tossing a thick pair of glasses on a handsome LensCrafters model does not make a geek.
True geeks are unassuming, find gratification solving complex problems that benefit others, and aren’t players – they worship women. But they’re also shy because they were never the revered jock or bad boy. Who bragged about going to the prom with a mathlete? They can build a satellite dish out of coconuts and a ball of twine but are oblivious when it comes to receiving signals coming from an interested woman. So you may have to take the initiative if you’re truly interested.
Who do you want to bring home to meet the parents? Some ridiculously hot guy who’s got you walking on eggshells, anticipating the next shocker to come out of his mouth (“I didn’t know breasts like that were hereditary, Mrs. Williams!”), or someone who can hold a 30-minute conversation with your engineer father, while treating your mother with the courtesy and respect she deserves.
Even if your prospect is an OG (original geek) and a little too true to the official uniform (jeans, ringer t-shirt, sneakers, and a haircut instead of a hairstyle), who doesn’t love giving a makeover? Not changing who he is; just a few subtle changes that make him feel a little more confident and you a little more turned on.
So which term is socially acceptable, geek or nerd? They’re interchangeable, and only a truly nerdy geek will care. Or is it a geeky nerd? On behalf of geeks everywhere, I thank you for your time and consideration.
Funny. It’s refreshing to actually hear a guy say something that sounds real. Lately there is this huge pool of self absorbed, pompous, self ascending, self inflating men who declare their greatness as if to proclaim their place in life (just in case you miss it). As I age I find that men who can talk to me about stock, or the latest political issues, etc. are more appealing than a man who wants to talk about how all the women at his gym and tanning bed all want him. I will admit that looks may catch your eye at first.. However, a hot guy with a “me” complex who knows more about women’s breast size is like paying 20k over sticker price for a Corvette expecting it to pull a camper.....after the new wears off you realize that your over priced car is not even functional.
Face it.....geeky nerds or nerdy geeks have evolved from the old pocket protector stigma. However, there is nothing more sexy than confidence in a man. The thin line between confidence and cocky is very thin but very different. A confident man lets his actions speak instead of words. A cocky man tells you what he wants you to see( I suspect because he is trying to convince himself as well). A confident man is often a humble man where the cocky man is often boisterous and tiring. But on first impression you can rarely distinguish the difference.
The difference comes when you put them in a situation as you describe above (meeting the parents or being able to encompass various conversations on many levels with same level of knowledge.) or anything outside their comfort level of talking about themselves. If I want to talk about you ...I will ask. On the other hand if I want to talk about the upcoming election I do not want to know what you wore to vote or how you voted only because the girls where you vote are hot. Beyond the exterior of that hot man he better have something to offer...because eventually all of our looks go and then that is when he better serve other purposes...else your left with a man who use to look good and offers nothing to the relationship because he thought he already knew it all.
Same thing if you reverse it for a woman. Sex is actually not as important and the same in both in regard to the action.