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Oh, the X-factor. Why is it that the men we don’t (or can’t) have are the ones we want the most? If you yearn for your ex to be something more, follow this step-by-step guide to getting him back:
Step 1: Reconsider. Think carefully about whether or not you really want to rekindle the flame before you light a match. The two of you broke up for a reason-- wouldn’t you be better off just starting anew with someone even more qualified to be your beau? Are your feelings a result of a legitimate desire to work on the relationship, or are you feeling vulnerable and want something that seems safe and familiar? Be honest with yourself about your real agenda.
Step 2: Take a survey. If you feel truly ready to re-start the romance, it’s time to figure out exactly what went wrong with your previous relationship. Think about the circumstances leading up to the breakup, as well as what triggered the final parting of ways. How will things be different this time? What will be required of you and your partner to make it work this time you give it a go?
Step 3: Spill the beans. Find a time to meet up with your ex face-to-face. You may want to choose a neutral location, like a coffee house or other public place, if the terms of your breakup were particularly messy. If you left on an amicable note, dare to meet at a restaurant or at a cozy bar. After catching up on each other’s lives, tell your ex that you’ve been thinking a lot about your relationship lately. Explain to them what you think went wrong, and then tell them why you think things might be different the second time around.
Step 4: Back off. Realize that your confession may come as something of a shock to your ex, so be prepared for a strong reaction. Let them know that you want to give them time to think about what you said. Some people might need a few hours, while others might need a few days-- ask your ex what works for them and then stick to your promise. No calls, emails, or text messages until the time is up. And if they say that they’re just not ready to get back together, respect that and move on. Above all, NO STALKING. It’s pathetic, illegal, and you’ll regret it for years to come.
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I agree!! You broke up for a reason. Move on. Make a list of the top ten things you want in a man. Look at them as deal breakers. Then look at your ex. Does he have all ten things??? Chances are he’s missing at least one or you wouldn’t have broke up! Hold out for your dream man. Stick to your guns and be patient girl, he’s right around the corner!
Good Luck
i would like to know if you are thinking about your ex he’s ex think about you as much as you are thinking about him.
I love my boyfriend but he did me dirty in our relationship and ,I reacted normally when ,I ask him to move out of my place where we were living and shortly after we broke up. I moved to a new apartment and since than ,,I have been thinking that maybe ,,I overreacted in my break up with him but ,,I think he’s has started seeing someone else that a friend told me. He’s girlfriend might be having a baby with him so may-be ,,I’am to late but the funny part about this story is he is still calling my home to hear my voice from unknown number unknown name but ,,I know it’s him because the backround noise is always the same his friends are always at his place so ,,I know the sounds of his friends. But ,,I miss him so much and wish we had stayed together ,,If he could’a treated me nicer but owell ..That’s my feedback on ex’s or mines anyway.