In the Game of Love there are many “Players on the Field”
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May 28, 2008 @ 12:06 am
Ever wonder who you are really sitting across from when you go out on a date or look across the crowded bar? There are plenty of Players and Playettes in the world of singles, here are a few of the key signs you can look for that will help you read their “playbooks” and avoid a “date defeat.”
Players:
Amateur Player
Uniform: casual, dressed for comfort not style
Intention: Hit and Run, to score as quickly and easy as possible
First Date Day: on a Mon, Tues Wed: these nights are unimportant to men so for them to invest minimal time for a one night stand is not a big deal.
Location: local bar or tavern that is convenient to him. The date will be spontaneous and not planned because he always exerts as little effort as possible.
Time of Date: Later in the evening because he has to catch up on all of his sports scores and BS with his friends before he even thinks to call and ask you to meet him at the last minute.
Big Play: to pour as much alcohol down your throat as possible and get you back to his place as soon as possible.
*Defense* never be a M, T, W night date girl! Respect yourself enough to be a Thu, Fri, or Sat girl and command a sophisticated location for the date. Two drink maximum! Always be on your game.
Professional Player:
Uniform: dressed to the “nines”. $2500.00 suits, the Rolex, watch and the $50,000 sports car. He needs “props” to assist him in getting what he wants....YOU
Intention: To paint a faux picture of male perfection, using such chivalrous acts such as renown restaurants, material objects and special attention to create a smoke screen that will blur your judgement.
First Date Day: Friday or Sat night. He has to look the part in order to totally misrepresent his intentions.
Location: He is a showman with no truth or depth. Remember the restaurant is actually a prop, a stage for him to perform. It will be upscale maybe even 5-star.
Time of Date: the appropriate date time for dinner: 7:30 to 9:00pm. He put you in “prime time and first position in hopes his return will be in the bedroom.
Big Play: “The dessert move” He will order chocolate soufflé and after dinner liquors. While you wait for the soufflé he will come across the table sit right next to you and start finger bending and whispering sweet nothings.
*Defense*: this guy will temporarily “walk the walk” in order to disguise his true intentions. He can’t keep it up! Be on guard, enjoy his show and the minute his act ends… get outta there. Amd make sure you don’t give him any play during the show.
The Player that’s not Playin :
Uniform: He just looks great! No matter if its jeans or a suit. His clothing always is secondary because he is such an pure, true kinda guy.
Intention: to genuinely get to know you.
First Date Day: He is not concerned with what day it is. The day depends on what is good for you. He genuinely wants to get to know you and he will do whatever it takes to get face time with you.
Location: It’s completely up to you. This guy is secure and knows that he can show you a great time whether it is sipping hot chocolate on Saturday afternoon or having a 5-star dinner on a Friday night.
Time of Date: Whatever is appropriate to spend quality time with you.
Big Play: Spontaneity! He thrives on his ability to be creative, exciting and passionate. He will go to any extreme to make sure every moment you spend with him is like nothing you have experienced with anyone else.
*Defense”: None. In this case, your best defense is a great offense! Be open, receptive and not afraid! Do not fall into the “to good to be true syndrome.” Embrace him…you deserve him!
Playettes:
Miss Materialistic:
Uniform: Gucci, Prada, Dolce or otherwise. What she has to offer is completely on the surface and is in her appearance. There is absolutely no depth here.
Intention: to increase her social standing through your checkbook.
First Date Day: she will only go with you on a Friday or Sat night. Unless of course it’s shopping then any day or time will do!
Location: Usually its 5-star restaurants that have one word names (super trendy places. She will make an exception for The Four Seasons or maybe The Ritz Carlton. Yes to many words in the name but a great social scene.
Time of Date: after 9pm, because that’s when all the other guys with money can see her.
Big Play: actually agreeing to the date, standing next to you and giving you eye contact.
*Defense*: Knowing where you stand. If you need a little eye candy for an event or to make an ex- girlfriend jealous, she is perfect. To think of her in any deep, substantive and long term relationship is detrimental to your mind and wallet.
Miss Instant Family:
Uniform: sexy baby doll dresses that hide maternity blouses that are underneath and ready to go.
Intention: create a meaningful relationship at light speed in order to reproduce in record time.
First Day Date: Anytime, day, night, weekend, leap year!
Location: Anywhere
Time of Date: Anytime at a moments notice
Big Play: the execution of a sexy care free single, independent woman that without notice, morphs into a demanding maternal monster without warning. Her intention is to hopefully have hooked the guy emotionally so he might give her what she desperately wants.
*Defense*: RUN…fast
Miss Perfection:
Uniform: She can look good in anything from a tee shirt and jeans to a Gucci dress. This is possible because she doesn’t try.
Intention: to move slowly and diligently without any desperation to truly get to know you. She goes through life without any drama.
First Day Date: she is definitely a Thur, Fri, Sat girl. She been this all her life. She wont except anything else.
Location: something fun, unique and spontaneous. She has been wined and dined before, so she has seen it all. To captivate her and peak her interest, you have to come with something strong.
Time of Date: anytime
Big Play: she is honest, direct and knows what she wants. She will be straight up in letting you know what works for her and what doesn’t. She will give you a shot because she is not afraid to fall in love.
*Defense*: be yourself, don’t be afraid to let her into your heart. She truly is not like anyone else you have ever dated. Go for it.
