When women play the dating game successfully, the live by one simple rule: let him do the chasing. As tempting as it is to call him, email him, text him . . . do ANYTHING just to hear the sound of his voice, if you play hard to get you’ll leave him wanting more every time. It sounds funny, but it’s actually sort of liberating once you get used to it-- no more worrying about coming across as desperate, because you know how you stand. So how do you get him to miss you instead of just forgetting about you once you walk away?
The most important thing is to make sure that you have enough going on in your life to not waste all of your emotional energy on whether or not this guy is going to turn into your long-term cuddle-buddy. Not there yet? Hang out with your friends and family, take up a hobby, or learn a new sport so that you can fill your life with non-romantic relationship things that still bring you joy. This technique has many benefits beyond showing a guy that you are busy-- by focusing on who you are and what you like, you will be more confident in general and a better partner once you do actually get into a relationship. You will also have a legitimate excuse to cancel or reschedule a date every now and then, which will keep him on his toes.
It’s also essential not to hound him for more time together. Let him suggest grabbing dessert somewhere else after your lengthy dinner together; he may jump at the idea if you bring it up, but how much sweeter would it be if he shyly suggested it? If you give off the impression that your schedule simply does not allow you to suggest spending massive amounts of time together, he will be more likely to treasure the time the two of you do spend one-on-one. This doesn’t have to last forever-- just long enough for him to get in the habit of seeing himself as just one part of your very hip life.
On a related note, don’t dawdle when you are leaving the date. There’s no need to rush off leaving him wondering what the emergency is, but wearing out your welcome when your hanging out on his turf or making idle conversation at your doorstep is just another way of saying, “My time isn’t important; let’s waste it because I don’t have anything better to do.” And definitely be sure to pick up on his hints. There’s nothing worse than someone who doesn’t leave after the old “Yawn, man, it’s getting late!” line.
The bottom line is that if you want the two of you to be together, you have to start off with some distance between you that slowly closes as the relationship progresses. Think of it as an opportunity to embrace your independence while still allowing for the possibility of someone to share things with . . . assuming, of course, that he can treat you like the busy, beautiful, sassy goddess you are!
That is so true. Its funny, I do these tips and tricks without even knowing. Lol! I mean I talk to them, leave em for a while, and they just keep calling. But those guys where just wastes. Now I’ve someone worth keeping...... for now. Gave hime the talk n tease, and now HE is suggesting n wanting to go further in this so called relationship! hehe dats how you do it ladies! keep em in line! lol thanks alot for the tips Matt, yo r so hot, and I loved u on Tyra Banks Show!