What is he thinking?
Why is he just sitting there while I am spilling my guts?
Why doesn’t he know what I am thinking?
How can I get him interested in me?
If you have ever asked one or all of the questions above...listen up...after learning the Secrets of the Boys Club,” you will never have to ask them again. That’s because Sassy Bean Dating Guru Matt Titus is revealing some helpful tips to navigate the often wild and confusing world of the modern single man.
Identity - Maintain it! You were an individual without him, so make sure you are an individual with him. There is nothing on this earth hotter than a woman who makes sure her man knows she would be just fine without him. Women who require time for themselves or “alone time” come across as secure, independent and a little bit mysterious. Simply put: it’s a turn on!
Confidence - There is no other way to be! You must maintain confidence in the way you look, in his feelings towards you, and in all of your actions. A woman, who has an underlying air that she looks great no matter the circumstance, is truly sexy. Look your best always. Don’t talk about it, complain about it, or dwell on it.
Don’t Call Boys - Guess what, your mama was right...good girls don’t call boys. In fact, let’s modify by saying the women men truly want, don’t call boys. In the beginning, let him believe he is an afterthought. While you are getting to know him, don’t ignore the rest of your life. You will get back to him when you have a chance.
Men Love with Their Eyes - Initially a man’s actions are driven by what he finds visually appealing. Men aren’t approaching you because you look intelligent, kind or secure. The simple fact is if he likes what he sees, he’s going to go after it.
Men Do Not Want Female Friends -If they do want to “be friends” they have already probably attempted to be intimately involved with you. Most likely they failed at the attempt, so the friendship thing is a way to quicken their exit from your life. If a guy first approaches you to be his friend he is most likely not sexually attracted to you (or women in general), or has an ulterior motive.
Men Do Not Know What They Want - Most of their actions are driven on impulse, so if we get what we want too soon (sex) we lose interest. If we don’t, it becomes a challenge, this fits better with our genetic make-up- because we our hunters! The rule is to make a man wait! You give it up on the first date; he’ll be gone by the second.
The Male Species is the Most Easily Intimidated Species on the Planet - Your successes, female strength, and intellect can be liabilities with the wrong guy-he’ll be scared of you! This is one of the most common problems when it comes to finding a man if you have the above qualities.
Men do not initially respond well to complete availability-Make yourself unavailable, even if you have the whole weekend free! Never say “YES!” the first time he asks you for a date, let him understand that you have a life and that you’ll have to fit him in, trust me on this one.
