You’ve been playing it like a pro for three weeks. You’ve been available, but not too available; interested, but not a doormat. Now he wants to whisk you away to a wine country bed and breakfast, and you made a promise to yourself not to sleep with him too soon. So what do you do?
He’ll want to sleep with you whether the two of you are in Sonoma or South Central, but location should never affect your better judgment. Don’t wait until you’re checking in at the B&B to tell him where you’re going to draw the line physically. Sassy Bean’s Love Doctor Matt Titus says there is never a perfect time, but it’s critical that you make sure you are ready, Titus says, “Don’t sleep with a man just because it “seems” like the right time. You need to make certain that you are ready for this next step, it is often a serious one that changes the dynamic of a relationship.” Here is some advice to make sure everyone is on the same “plane” for your weekend rendezvous.
• Stick with your timetable! If it’s too soon for you, let him know.
• Be honest and tell him before the trip that you are not ready to be intimate yet. If he bags the weekend getaway, you are not with “the one,” you are with “one” selfish man.
• We are not prudes here at Sassy Bean, so you can be a little more creative in the bedroom on your sexy getaway. Just make sure your willpower doesn’t get away from you.
I played the “hard to get card” for a while and he was offereing trips and dreams that I thought was full of it. I did like him ....a little but not enough for head over hills. In fact......he was over the hill. It was my birthday night and I had a little too much to drink and me being a sexual person but not permiscous person gave in and in turn slept with him. The trip offers stopped, he still called but the promises stopped ....he displayed different behavior than before. all in all.....men are shit and we as women have to date like men....it works better that way.