Dear Matt-
My boyfriend of 3 months is becoming clingy. I need some alone time already! Help!
Your boyfriend is turning into your “Gal Pal,” and if you don’t do something fast, you are going to be forced to take him to the very next “girl’s night out.” There are a few reasons guys develop the “Gal Pal” syndrome.
1. He may truly enjoy every moment spent basking in your glow.
2. He may like shopping malls and spas (though I really have met very few men who fall into this category).
3. He may be very jealous and not trust you just yet.
Whatever the case, some suggestions to wean him off of your girl’s night outing.
1. It’s still a bit soon to be giving him your hourly schedule. Do what you need to do and then call him to let him know you have time.
2. Let him know that spending too much time together isn’t good for you. Yes, it may be harsh…but better now than later.
3. If it’s a night you have plans, tell him you just want to get all pretty for him or get some things done, and then remind him you will be seeing him later (giving him something to look forward too).
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt-
There is a cute guy in my building that I seem to run into all the time. He smiles at me, but it never progresses beyond that. Any way to wake up my neighbor?
If you want to be your own cupid, here are a few power moves that might wake up his romantic soul.
Be aggressive. What do you have to lose? Stop him and look him right in the eyes and introduce yourself. This will give him the opportunity to get your number. If he is timid and doesn’t ask for your digits, his loss.
Leave a note. The doorman can be your best friend, leave a note with him that says you both seem to be so busy, but you wanted to formally introduce yourself, then leave your phone number and leave the ball in his court.
Have a group of friends over from your building. This way you can casually invite him and a buddy for your “little get together.” This is very informal and non committal, just the kind of invitation he will respond to.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
This is when you have to start thinking like a guy. Men compartmentalize, which means they categorize what each relationship is about, as well as how much emotion, time, and effort they put into it. There is no reading into anything; men take each relationship at the face value they have assigned it. Men do this because their actions and thoughts are usually not driven by emotion.
Here is how to make having sex with your “ex,” a healthy experience:
1. You don’t have to play hard to get. You are both past that, and you are there for one purpose and one purpose only. Just get to it.
2. Think of each sexual experience with your “ex” as a “get into bed free pass.” You both know the depth of this non-relationship: no expectations, just great sex.
3. When the romp is over, it’s over until the next time your paths cross again. Actually, it’s exciting because you never know when it’s going to happen again.
4. Finally, if you decide to have sex with your “ex,” make sure you can do this without being emotionally attached. If it becomes more confusing than comfortable, then it’s time to say goodbye for good.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt-
I have a pretty active dating life, but it’s getting hard to juggle my calendar! Any advice on how to make sure I don’t double book and can squeeze everyone in.
So many men, so little time? What a great problem to have! The answer, is to compartmentalize and prioritize. Here’s some Sassy Tips on how to enjoy several men at once:
It’s Just Gonna Be Lunch
You don’t know him that well, but you are intrigued by him and are attracted to him. He is inconsequential, but for some reason you are strangely interested. This guy should be your coffee and/or lunch date. Get to know him before you give him one of your nights.
TFS
You are incredibly attracted to him. He’s hot and sexy, but is incapable of any long term commitment, plus he’s dumb. The less you have to talk to him the better. Enjoy him on Thursday, Friday or Saturday nights. Those are the nights When Girls Just Wanna Have Fun.
Sunday Brunch Man
This guy is leading the pack! He has it together, and you could fall for him in a second, but you are moving slowly and evaluating his every move. You will want a lot of face time with this guy, so he is your Sunday Brunch Man. Sundays are personal, intimate days. Whomever you share that day with, may eventually be the one you share all the others with too.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt-
How do you get a guy to approach you? They stare at me in bars and when I am out on the town, but hardly ever come up to me.
You have heard it before. Men are very visual creatures. If you looking to get a man to approach you than you must be aware of the fact that they look for visual cues from women. Here are some suggestions that will make you more approachable to a man.
1. Don’t look too "finished" or overdressed. Men may interpret this being too serious, uptight or worst of all "high maintenance."
2. Lose that sexy pout. Men interpret the "sexy scowl" as intimidating and egotistical. It’s hard enough for a guy to approach a completely strange woman let alone a completely strange woman that looks like she is permanently sniffing dirty socks. So SMILE, it’s easy!
3. Don’t pair off with one of the girls. If you are in a twosome with your girlfriend, it could make him feel like a third wheel. Men have a hard time approaching one women, more less two.
4. If you catch a guy staring at you, don’t just stare back… SMILE. A smile is often the cue men need to let them know that you are aware that he is interested and it’s okay.
5. When your dream guy eventually does approach you don’t be shy. Ask plenty of questions and have plenty of answers.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
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