Dear Matt, How can I break off my relationship and still look like a terrible person?
Here are 3 great ways to break it off and still look like a superstar.
1.Tell him that you are way too high maintenance for him and there is no way that he or any other guy could keep you happy, so you are going to do him a favor and let him off the hook.
2.Explain that you are not capable of giving him what he needs because you are not the person that you want to be. You have to love yourself before you can truly care about anyone else.
3.Tell him that the relationship thing isn’t what you thought it would be and you need to be alone and selfish because you do not yet know what the best thing for you might be.
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? This book will be out January 13, 2008. It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
Dear Matt,
I think I am in the middle of a relationship build solely on texting! I met a guy on-line, but have yet to see him in person, all we do is text each other! What do it mean?
Beware of the species of males out there called “the kitchen mavens” a.k.a. “the non-closer.” These are men who talk the talk, or rather type the text, but certainly can’t walk the walk. They are satisfied with an interesting conversation and flirting, but for some reason can’t take it to the next level. A true man wants to hear what you have to say, but initially is more interested in how you look and in physically connecting. If a man isn’t in a hurry to get physical, or at least see you in person, beware, he isn’t that interested or he unfortunately may be one of the above mentioned creatures.
Here are some guidelines to reading between the lines, so you don’t waste time with what we call a “techno tease.”
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? This book will be out January 13, 2008. It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
•If he doesn’t ask you out within ten text exchanges, you are getting down to the wire, and on the fast track to Friendship Lane.
•Any late night texts are feeble attempts to appear to be macho. Don’t respond until you see his moves in person.
•He has 10 days from the initial time you meet to CALL (not text). At that point, he must ask you out on a date.
Dear Matt-
How do you recommend acting the morning after sex? It’s always weird for me.
Picture this, he comes through the doorway with two steamy lattes in hand, and you are greeted by his sexy smile and those piercing baby blues. Suddenly, you are overcome by the realization that this man could be “the one.” Now what? Tell him you love him? Admit it was the best night of your life? Or go back to bed and hope he never asks you to leave.
Don’t linger.
Drink that foamy tall latte, grab your bag and find the door. You have plenty of places to be.
Use your minutes for someone else.
There were plenty of unspoken words last night, so let him call you, once you leave.
Don’t mark your territory.
Grab your sunglasses, pick up both earrings and don’t leave your lipstick stained water bottle on the nightstand. Three quick steps out the door will make for plenty of morning afters.
Quit daydreaming.
Yes, it was wonderful. He may just be Mr. Right. But, you cannot lose your identity just because you had an amazing night of passion. Go about your business and let him miss you when he goes to sleep tonight.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt-
My boyfriend hates it when I talk about my ex. But, we are still very good friends and I don’t see why it’s a big deal. I have not problem hearing him talk about his ex-girlfriends.
You do not live your life in the past, so why talk about it? The only things to take into the future from past relationships are fond memories and lessons learned.
However, it is human nature for any man to compare himself to your past lovers, but when you talk about them,
your current beau may become jealous or insecure. Guys need to believe they are the best you have ever had, in every department.
Your past should only play one role in your future and that is to assist you in not making any of the same mistakes.
If your current boyfriend asks about past relationships or lovers, let him know they all were learning experiences and they helped turn
you into the best partner he could ever have.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Help! I love twizzlers and pretzels. I have major problems after hours when there is nothing to do but hit the fridge and watch TV. How can I stop myself from this terrible habit?
It’s 11pm and all of a sudden the craving begin. You picture the left over apple pie in the fridge, the ice cream that is sitting alone in the freezer and the half eaten pizza that is finally at room temperature on your counter. What’s a girl to do? Do you give in and just start your diet tomorrow? Do you try to have some semblance of control and act like a grown up?
The next time your stomach starts an all out coup, let your brain take control of your belly. Create a system of checks and balances that will ensure you stay out of the kitchen.
1. Pinch Yourself:
Preferably pinch your earlobes or nostrils for 10 seconds. This will divert the craving and refocus your senses on the
temporary self inflicted agitation. These are acupressure points that release hormones that counterbalance hunger cravings.
2. Light Up Your Life
Brighter lights depress hunger cravings. Dim lights lower your inhibitions and make you eat more. So, click on the bedroom light and make sure you don’t turn them off until you are sure you have control.
3. Lay Off!
Stop pressuring yourself to be thin! Start thinking “healthy” rather than thin and the pounds will fall off!
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