Dear Matt,
I think I am in the middle of a relationship build solely on texting! I met a guy on-line, but have yet to see him in person, all we do is text each other! What do it mean?
Beware of the species of males out there called “the kitchen mavens” a.k.a. “the non-closer.” These are men who talk the talk, or rather type the text, but certainly can’t walk the walk. They are satisfied with an interesting conversation and flirting, but for some reason can’t take it to the next level. A true man wants to hear what you have to say, but initially is more interested in how you look and in physically connecting. If a man isn’t in a hurry to get physical, or at least see you in person, beware, he isn’t that interested or he unfortunately may be one of the above mentioned creatures.
Here are some guidelines to reading between the lines, so you don’t waste time with what we call a “techno tease.”
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? This book will be out January 13, 2008. It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
•If he doesn’t ask you out within ten text exchanges, you are getting down to the wire, and on the fast track to Friendship Lane.
•Any late night texts are feeble attempts to appear to be macho. Don’t respond until you see his moves in person.
•He has 10 days from the initial time you meet to CALL (not text). At that point, he must ask you out on a date.
Dear Matt-
How do you recommend acting the morning after sex? It’s always weird for me.
Picture this, he comes through the doorway with two steamy lattes in hand, and you are greeted by his sexy smile and those piercing baby blues. Suddenly, you are overcome by the realization that this man could be “the one.” Now what? Tell him you love him? Admit it was the best night of your life? Or go back to bed and hope he never asks you to leave.
Don’t linger.
Drink that foamy tall latte, grab your bag and find the door. You have plenty of places to be.
Use your minutes for someone else.
There were plenty of unspoken words last night, so let him call you, once you leave.
Don’t mark your territory.
Grab your sunglasses, pick up both earrings and don’t leave your lipstick stained water bottle on the nightstand. Three quick steps out the door will make for plenty of morning afters.
Quit daydreaming.
Yes, it was wonderful. He may just be Mr. Right. But, you cannot lose your identity just because you had an amazing night of passion. Go about your business and let him miss you when he goes to sleep tonight.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt-
My boyfriend hates it when I talk about my ex. But, we are still very good friends and I don’t see why it’s a big deal. I have not problem hearing him talk about his ex-girlfriends.
You do not live your life in the past, so why talk about it? The only things to take into the future from past relationships are fond memories and lessons learned.
However, it is human nature for any man to compare himself to your past lovers, but when you talk about them,
your current beau may become jealous or insecure. Guys need to believe they are the best you have ever had, in every department.
Your past should only play one role in your future and that is to assist you in not making any of the same mistakes.
If your current boyfriend asks about past relationships or lovers, let him know they all were learning experiences and they helped turn
you into the best partner he could ever have.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt,
I am embarrassed to talk about my current situation, but I need help. I caught my boyfriend and my best friend in bed together. I was shocked and so upset. Now, they are both asking for forgiveness. I just can’t do it. Am I wrong?
Run Forest… Run! Remember that movie? Well, get moving, and don’t look back! And don’t you dare blame yourself or feel sad. It is sooo their loss. Just be happy that you saw their true colors before you wasted anymore of your wonderful self on them. People like your ex-boyfriend and your ex-best friend deserve each other. They are driven by their impulses and will continue to make bad decisions all through life.
You can’t and shouldn’t forgive either of them; so focus immediately on yourself and all of the other wonderful things in your life, like genuine friends, family and career. While your heart is healing, we would like to recommend some remedies:
Do not be bitter towards anyone involved in the situation (other friends, your cheating ex or your former best friend). Indifference is always a sign of strength.
Completely ignore any attempts either party might have in trying to contact you. It won’t be easy, but it will be best long term.
Workout, make new friends and leave the dark past in the past. Focus on your bright future, and you will soon have new people in your life to replace those who do not deserve you.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
I hate sunglass shopping! How do I pick out the right frames from my face?
You can literally spend hours at the store trying on all sorts of sunglasses giving you a Audrey Hepburn look or a Jackie O style. But, how do you chose the most flattering shades for the shape of your face? Use this friendly guide to give you the look you want.
If you have a Square Face:
You will want to use your sunglasses to soften the angles of your face, so opt for glasses that have more of a curve and wrap around your eyes. Cat-eye styles are ideal for people with a strong jawline. Oval glasses work wonders.
If you have an Oval Face:
Good news! You can wear almost any shape out there, but one word of caution, don’t go crazy when it comes to size. Bigger is not better when it comes to your sunglasses. The glasses should work in proportion to your features and cover the entire area between your brows to your cheekbones. Any frame shape.
If you have a Heart Face:
Pick frames that are rounded and wider at the bottom. The goal is to try and offset the width of the top of your face. Round.
If you have a Round Face:
You have plenty of options that are quite stylish and chic. Look for styles that are narrow or have angles so that the glasses will help lengthen or enlongate your face. Angluar and rectangular styles.
If you have an Oblong Face:
In this case you will want to try and make your face appear shorter, so try frames that are tall or deep and will add some width to your look. Make sure that your sunglasses do not extend beyond the widest part of your face. Round or Square are the best.
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