Dear Matt,
We’ve had a few dates and it’s always a good time. The problem is, he still has his profile up on two dating websites? Can I ask him to take it down?
The goal here is for him to actively take down his profile on his own without you asking, hinting or requesting him to do so. If he does this on his own it will make you feel extremely secure in the relationship. Here are 3 things that you can do to reach this goal.
Don’t dwell on it. Does it really matter that his profile is up when you guys have a great time every time you get together? Where’s your confidence? Remember, a confident girl is a sexy girl.
Just relax. It’s a little early for you to even be thinking about him taking down his profile.
Let him have at it! Let him continue to meet women that absolutely pale in comparison to you. He’ll figure out soon enough that he only wants to be with you.
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Dear Matt,
I spend a lot of time dating online. How can I make my search more efficient and safe?
1. Don’t waste time on the phone or online with your new cyber guy. Meet him as soon as possible in person to see if there is chemistry.
2. Narrow your search for exactly what you are looking for. Do not compromise when someone is showing interest that doesn’t match your dating requirements. In the end it will be a waste of time.
3. Immediately ask the guy that you are interested in to send additional pictures of himself to make sure the one he has posted online matches the other pictures you have requested.
4. When you finally meet your cyber crush, if there is not any chemistry move on. Don’t be afraid to be honest. It’s much worse in the end to waste time or lead someone on.
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
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Dear Matt,
I love my mother dearly, but she’s always asking me when I’m going to get married. I’m in my early 30’s, but I’m not dating anyone right now and don’t want to feel pressured to settle down. What should I do?
Ah, mothers, they always have our best interests at heart . . . right? If only you could answer her constant questions about your self-imposed singledom with a hearty, “IT’S MY LIFE…BUTT OUT MOM!” Of course you can’t say that to dear old mom, but it is important to let her know that you are doing fine just the way you are. You might want to consider saying something along the lines of:
“I’m taking the time to find the right person.”
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“I’ve kept my heart from being broken several times and might have saved myself from at least one divorce.”
“I would rather be happy and alone than unhappy and lonely with another person.”
Let her know that you love and respect her, but right now you need her to support your decisions even if she doesn’t agree with them.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt,
I think the guy I am seeing is still hung up on his ex-girlfriend. He says they are just friends and that she is going through a bad time, but I am convinced there is something more than that going on. Help!
Don’t wonder any longer. I have a few signs that may help you figure out whether or not his ex has ex-ited his life (in a romantic sense) for good.
1. He mentions her often, but tries to make it seem like a natural part of a story or conversation. It’s almost as if she is looming somewhere in the back of his mind and he subconsciously brings her up as much as possible.
2. He answers her calls and texts regularly. This is not a good sign. Usually people who are broken up do not correspond so there might still be something there.
3. He helps her with small “boyfriend-like” tasks. Most guys dread home improvement jobs with their current girlfriends, let alone an ex. If he is more than willing to still be her handyman, he is not the man for you.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
Dear Matt,
Everywhere I look there are couples. I am so sick of seeing people in love and I hate myself for hating them! Help! I am single and sick of it.
The first thing you need to realize is that everyone of those people you see, was once in the same situation you are in, and it’s really not so bad. Being single can be a blast, and you must embrace this stage in your life. If you don’t, you may miss the time you had to yourself. Here are some things to do during your singledom that will pass the time and perhaps prepare you to meet the right person, instead of just anyone.
•Just because you don’t have someone attached to your hip, doesn’t mean you can’t go out.
•Be happy and realize a relationship takes a lot of responsibility and time.
•Right now, you are free to do anything, with anyone, at anytime…remember that’s not a bad deal.
•Work on yourself inside and out. Guys are visual, so give they some eye candy… work that body girl!
•As for the inside, reaffirm who you are and where you want to be in your life by making a five-year plan. You must know who you are before you can understand what you want in someone else.
•Observe couples closely and don’t get jealous! Become a student of relationships so you can identify what you want in your next relationship.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
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