Dear Matt-
How do you get a guy to approach you? They stare at me in bars and when I am out on the town, but hardly ever come up to me.

You have heard it before. Men are very visual creatures. If you looking to get a man to approach you than you must be aware of the fact that they look for visual cues from women. Here are some suggestions that will make you more approachable to a man. 

1. Don’t look too "finished" or overdressed. Men may interpret this being too serious, uptight or worst of all "high maintenance."

2. Lose that sexy pout. Men interpret the "sexy scowl" as intimidating and egotistical. It’s hard enough for a guy to approach a completely strange woman let alone a completely strange woman that looks like she is permanently sniffing dirty socks. So SMILE, it’s easy!

3. Don’t pair off with one of the girls. If you are in a twosome with your girlfriend, it could make him feel like a third wheel. Men have a hard time approaching one women, more less two. 

4. If you catch a guy staring at you, don’t just stare back… SMILE. A smile is often the cue men need to let them know that you are aware that he is interested and it’s okay. 

5. When your dream guy eventually does approach you don’t be shy. Ask plenty of questions and have plenty of answers. 

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